If you want to talk about high stakes situations, how about the negotiation process when your dog refuses to return home at the end of a walk or trip to the dog park? The more you tug on the leash, the more your pup digs their claws into the ground, and the more you can feel everyone staring. If you’ve been in this situation, every outing with your dog can bring on a sense of dread at getting them back in the car or house. You might also worry that your dog will give their friendly Dog Walker a hard time or that at a certain point, your pup will simply turn tail and run away from you. But, luckily, there are some simple tricks that you can use to end the behaviour for good.
First, let’s figure out why your dog refuses to return home
When your dog runs laps around the dog park, cleverly avoiding where you’re standing with leash in hand, it can feel like your dog is being downright vindictive.
But, of course, that’s not the case at all. While our dogs want approval and praise, they also want to have fun. And, they might have learned that the moment you bring out that leash, fun time is over.
What’s more, if you’ve shown (understandably) frustration about this game of cat and mouse in the past, your pupper has even more reason to hold onto those last wonderful moments of freedom. They might think that the end of their time outside doesn’t only mean an end to the fun but also an unpleasant welcome home.
While the desire to keep playing is the most common reason dogs refuse to return home, there could be other factors at play here. Your dog may be dealing with car sickness or remembering that last week, you took them to the groomers right after their outing. If they refuse to round the last corner to your house, it could be that the neighbour’s big scary dog likes to bark at them as they pass.
The more you take note of your dog’s behaviours and environment, you’ll be able to pick out patterns that reveal why they’re pretending to ignore you when you call.
From there, you can put together a plan to fix the problem.
Emergency situations: what to do when your dog refuses to return home and runs loose
Before we get into some longer term training methods that will end the avoidance behaviour completely, it’s helpful to have a plan for emergency situations. After all, if your dog is off leash in an open area where they could easily get lost or injured, you want to get them back ASAP. Here are a few things that you can try in the moment:
- If your dog won’t come, give them another command. If we’re not careful, the word “come” or “here” can become associated with an end to playtime for our pups. That can make it a hit-or-miss command in emergency situations. If your dog isn’t responding to the recall command, try a different one like “sit” or “lay down.” It might give you just enough time to approach your pup and leash them up.
- Try getting their attention with a surprise. Even when our dogs appear to be ignoring us, they’ve usually got an ear trained in our direction. So, to get them to come to you quickly, try making a strange, unexpected noise and run away from your dog. Yes, you will make a scene! But in most cases, your dog will run over out of curiosity and you can safely secure them.
- Ask a bystander for help. People-oriented dogs may respond more quickly to the attention of a stranger than your calls. So, if your pup is running down the street, don’t be afraid to flag down a bystander up ahead with, “My dog’s name is Fido. Please call him!” With even a momentary distraction from a stranger, your pup may pause long enough for you to win back their focus.
As you’ve probably guessed, these are not long term solutions to your dog’s avoidance behaviour. It’s a good idea to have these last resort options in your back pocket for emergency situations, but training for better recall is the main priority.
What to do when your dog refuses to return home from a walk
Here are a few ways to ensure that your dog won’t see the end of their walk as the end of the world:
- Switch up the route. Dogs are creatures of habit, and if you take them on the same route every day, they’ll start to anticipate when the walk is coming to an end. You can disrupt this habit by taking your pup on new walking routes and coming home from different directions. You might even trick them by walking to your front door as if to end the walk, and then turning around and continuing on your way. These switch-ups will make it harder for your dog to predict when the walk will end, and provide an added bonus of extra mental stimulation!
- Give your pup something to look forward to. As much as your dog loves their daily walk, try to arrange for something even more exciting to take place when they get home. This might include some one-on-one time with you, such as a fun training session or playtime. Or, you might walk them directly before feeding them their mouth-watering bowl of fresh raw dog food. The tastier the meal, the more excited they’ll be to get back to the house after their walk.
- Schedule frequent walks during the day. We can’t blame our doggos for wanting to be outside. And if they only get one long walk per day, it’s understandable that they would refuse to go back inside. You might be able to ease their resistance by giving them more opportunities to exercise outside, such as a visit from their favourite Dog Walker.
- Entice them with treats. It may take a while for your dog to stop seeing the end of their walk with dread. In the meantime, treats can be a big help. Instead of playing tug-of-war with your dog’s leash, offer them a reward for walking alongside you as you approach the house. If they’re still hesitant, try swapping out their regular treats for something even tastier.
How to entice your pup to get in the car after an adventure
It’s one thing to struggle with your pupper at the driveway as you’re coming back from your walk. It’s quite another to be out in public when your dog refuses to come back to the car. In some ways, this is a more high-stake situation, so you want to focus on quick and enthusiastic recall.
One way to do this is with high reward treats. If your dog goes wild for boiled chicken or bits of deli meat, this will be one of the few times that you use it to get them excited about coming back to the car.
And, you’ll want to start the training when your car is still at home. Throughout the day, bring your dog out to the car and have them hop in for a tasty treat. You can also introduce a command, such as “hop in” or “time to go” to signal that you want them to get in the car. Give them plenty of praise every time they get in the car.
You can also make a game out of getting into the car. For this, you’ll want to bring their favorite toy and simply toss it into the backseat for them to get it.
The idea, here, is to reestablish your dog’s relationship with the car. With daily short training sessions, your pup will start to see the car as something rewarding. And once they’ve become comfortable at home, you can take it to the next step by driving to a new location, preferably one less exciting than the dog park but still safe enough to test out your dog’s recall skills.
Final steps towards ending the show-down for good
Teaching your dog to come home after an outing is a matter of safety. But it will also make your life much easier! With regular practice, the help of a Dog Walker, and some tasty treats, your pupper will be excited to come back home after their adventures.
Have any tricks of your own for when your dog refuses to return home?
8 comments
I call my dog back every so often in the park, give him a pat and let him go again. That way he doesn’t just associate coming back to me with leaving. Much easier to get him to go when I do need to.
My cockapoo is nearly two she never far away from me and most of time I can put lead back on her and walk to car but occasionally and she starts to bark and will not have lead back on , still stays near but just can not get her . Eventually with distraction or when she’s ready and lyes down I can put lead back on . Sometimes been in park 20 min longer trying but learnt not to get frustrated well show it ignoring her is the best thing . Wish she would come to me when I’m ready though .
Got stuck at the park for 3 hours yesterday because my 20 month old Rottie boy Bacchus was having so much fun he didn’t want to leave. I played the nice me, then the Alfa grumpy me, had a special treat, gave home more play time, he got to play with a chocolate lab and swim in the sea but he still would not get in the car. 3 hours later I was getting worried as needed to get home. I had various families and couples trying to help me but he would not come near the car and just kept backing away. Eventually at 5pm to ladies walking helped, I got in the back seat with a treat he came closer and came into the back seat with a bit of a nudge, I’m to scare to take him out again now in case I get stuck. Your advice above is quite helpful obviously I need some training. 😀
That’s exactly my dog she goes for her walk and it could last for hours and she still gives me a hard time..
My 16 month old golden retriever had a fear of the car and has done so well getting in to go out but some times I’m also stuck for 1-2 hours trying to get him in the car. He jumps in fine to go out but to come home he refuses he’s getting better at going up to the car but getting in is a no! Last week it took 25 minutes but today we didn’t even get in the car to go home lucky we could walk, hoping he doesn’t get used to that though any advice would be great. I kept walking away from the car then back to the car give a treat and walk away it worked last week but not this week
Thanks, for all your stories, I really need to schedule extra time when walking my dog. He digs in when he see’s the walk way. His behavior changed when I I went on vacation with out him. I’m also concern that he will dig in at the park. Although, usually are other dog walkers near by. I wish there was a dog rescuer somewhere close. Keep your spirits up hopefully your dogs will finally give up.
Thanks everyone…so I m not the only one whose dog won’t get back in the car after a good long run ..in French woodland! I spent three hours waiting recently for my 11
Month pup, who had come across the carcass of a fox, and planted himself in order to finish chewing it…
In the end, I had to drive slowly up a quiet country road, fortunately no cars…and he followed the car home, joyfully! Awful..don t want a repeat, so, one perseveres with training.
At home, he turns into a perfect docile companion dog!
My Amstaff won’t leave the dog park. She just loves being there (she’s 17 months) I have to get others to help. Sometimes the situation has been desperate as it’s getting dark etc. have tried everything.